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POWER AND CONTROL WHEEL

The Power and Control Wheel depicts an abusive relationship. At its core lies power and control surrounded by 8 tactics used by batterers. A thick border labeled "Physical, VIOLENCE, Sexual" encircles the wheel and its contents. The eight tactics follow in clockwise order:

USING INTIMIDATION
Making her afraid by using looks, gestures; smashing things; destroying her property; abusing pets; displaying weapons.

USING EMOTIONAL ABUSE
Putting her down; making her feel bad about herself; calling her names; making her think she's crazy; playing mind games; humiliating her; making her feel guilty.

USING ISOLATION
Controlling what she does, who she sees and talks to, what she reads, where she goes; limiting her outside involvement; using jealousy to justify actions.

MINIMIZING, DENYING AND BLAMING
Making light of the abuse and not taking her concerns about it seriously; saying the abuse didn't happen; shifting responsibility for abusive behavior; saying she caused it.

USING CHILDREN
Making her feel guilty about the children; using the children to relay messages; using visitation to harass her; threatening to take the children away.

USING MALE PRIVILEGE
Treating her like a servant; making all the big decisions; acting like the "master of the castle"; being the one to define men's and women's roles.

USING ECONOMIC ABUSE
Preventing her from getting or keeping a job; making her ask for money; giving her an allowance; taking her money; not letting her know about or have access to family income.

USING COERCION AND THREATS
Making and/or carrying out threats to do something to hurt her; threatening to leave her to commit suicide, to report to welfare; making her drop charges; making her do illegal things.



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EQUALITY WHEEL

The Equality Wheel depicts male/female interactions in a healthy relationship, where at its center/core lies equality surrounded by 8 non-violent characteristics. A thick border labeled "NON-VIOLENCE" encircles the wheel and its contents. The eight elements identified are as follows, in clockwise order:

NON-THREATENING BEHAVIOR
Talking and acting so that the she feels safe and comfortable expressing herself and doing things.

RESPECT
Listening to her non-judgmentally; being emotionally affirming and understanding; valuing opinions.

TRUST AND SUPPORT
Supporting her goals in life; respecting her right to her own feelings, friends, activities and opinions.

HONESTY AND ACCOUNTABILITY
Accepting responsibility for herself; acknowledging past use of violence; admitting being wrong; communicating openly and truthfully.

RESPONSIBLE PARENTING
Sharing parental responsibilities; being a positive non-violent role model for the children.

SHARED RESPONSIBILITY
Mutually agreeing on a fair distribution of work; making family decisions together.

ECONOMIC PARTNERSHIP
Making money decisions together; making sure both partners benefit from financial agreements.

NEGOTIATION AND FAIRNESS
Seeking mutually satisfying resolutions to conflict; accepting change; being willing to compromise.

 

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Chapter 9 Domestic Violence June 2002
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