IMPORTANCE OF THE ROLE OF
MILITARY CHAPLAINS AND OTHER CLERGY
IN SERVING VICTIMS OF CRIME
Americans' primary source of help for problems
1960's Study
42% Clergy
29% General Physicians
17% Psychiatrists
10% Other Mental Health Professionals
2% Other
25 years later (after Community Mental Health)
34% Clergy
28% Community Health Centers
Lesser percentages in each of all
other disciplines
Percentages do not necessarily apply to chaplains.
From all indicators, and depending upon the particular command, it is estimated that well
over 50% of military personnel see chaplains as primary source of help.
DEFINITIONS
Physical Abuse
Physical abuse is that treatment of a child which results in injuries caused by hitting,
pushing, whipping, biting, punching, slapping, or burning. Injuries include bruises, burns,
welts, cuts and bone and skull fractures.
Sexual Abuse
Sexual abuse is any person, adult or child, forcing, tricking, threatening or coercing a child to have any kind of sexual contact with her or him. It may range from intercourse by rape or incest to touching inappropriately and exposure.
DEFINITIONS
(Continued)
Emotional Abuse
Emotional abuse is excessive verbal assault (belittling, screaming, threatening, blaming,
using sarcasm), unpredictable responses (inconsistency), continual negative moods,
constant family discord and double-message communication.
Physical Neglect
Physical neglect is failure to provide a child with adequate food, shelter, clothing, protection, supervision and medical and dental care.
CHILD NEGLECT
NEGLECTFUL PARENTS
Less
More
(Informal/formal)
INDICATORS OF POSSIBLE
CHILD NEGLECT
Child's Appearance
NEGLECT INDICATORS
(Continued)
Child's Behavior
Caretaker's Behavior
CHILD PHYSICAL ABUSE
Usually related to "discipline"
(trying to enforce behavior)
Generally inflicted when caretaker is out
of control
Often caused by failure to understand stages of child development
(expectations beyond child's capability)
More frequent when caretaker's primary method of training is physical coercion
More likely when control takes precedence over nurture
INDICATORS OF POSSIBLE
PHYSICAL CHILD ABUSE
Child's Appearance
Child's Behavior
PHYSICAL ABUSE INDICATORS
(Continued)
Caretaker's Behavior
CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE
Myths
1. Sexual abuse of children is rather rare
2. Most molesters are "dirty old men"
3. Most child sexual abuse is by strangers
4. Primarily in rural and lower socio-economic backgrounds
5. Not likely in religious families
6. Should not talk with child about it for fear of frightening
7. Most takes place in isolated, deserted areas
8. Adolescents should be held accountable for encountering sexual assault
INDICATORS OF POSSIBLE CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE
Child's Appearance
INDICATORS OF POSSIBLE
CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE
(Continued)
Child's Behavior
INDICATORS OF POSSIBLE
CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE
(Continued)
Caretaker's Behavior
RESPONSE TO DISCLOSURE
OF CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE
1. Listen to the child and take seriously what she/he says.
2. Stay calm.
3. Thank the child and reassure that it is not her/his fault.
4. Take immediate steps to protect the child.
5. Report the suspected abuse immediately.
6. Continue to give support as the child goes through the child protection system.
7. Have the child seen by a physician.
RESPONSE TO DISCLOSURE
OF CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE
(Continued)
8. Find a professional in the field or a colleague to talk to. This person should definitely
commit to holding confidentiality.
9. Find out if the court is going to recommend treatment for the child. Make contact with
the therapist and offer to cooperate.
10. Continue to offer the child the emotional support she/he needs.
11. Take steps to assure that the sexual abuse does not happen again.
CHILD EMOTIONAL ABUSE -
DEFINITION AND DYNAMICS
EMOTIONAL ABUSE
EMOTIONAL NEGLECT
PRESENT IN OTHER FORMS OF CHILD ABUSE AND NEGLECT
COMPONENTS
CONTINUUM OF PARENTAL BEHAVIOR
POSITIVE
PATENTAL BEHAVIOR: |
NEGATIVE
PARENTAL BEHAVIOR: |
EMOTIONAL
MALTREATMENT: |
Praising
Attention Affection Good Example Guidance |
Yelling
Name Calling Ignoring Over Prohibition Over Control |
Consistent Negative
Behaviors
Rejecting Threatening Bizarre Punishment Using |
INDICATORS OF POSSIBLE
EMOTIONAL MALTREATMENT
Child's Appearance
Child's Behavior
Caretaker's Behavior
MANDATE TO REPORT
All states now have a mandated Child Abuse Reporting Law
Military requires reporting to Family Advocacy
The list of Mandated Reporters generally includes:
Law Enforcement Personnel
Medical Practicioners
Day Care Operators
Teachers (Public and Private Schools)
Therapists and Counselors
School Administrators
Group Home Personnel
Social Workers
Photo Processing Stores & Labs
In some states clergy are also mandated.
In most, as well as in the military, exceptions are made because of privilege of
confidentiality.
However, if clergy person also falls under one of the above categories, he/she is mandated.
There is, however, a moral obligation to report in order to protect the child.
PRIVILEGE OF CONFIDENTIALITY
IMPERATIVE TO REPORT
The conflict: Protecting Children (intervention in abuse) vs. Maintaining Confidence
If indicators are observed (vs. Being revealed in pastoral consultation) no violation of
confidence in reporting
Question: What to do when revealed in confidential pastoral counseling setting?
Conflict of Ethics:
Ethics of maintaining confidence vs. Ethic of reporting to protect the child
Scriptures place high emphasis upon the welfare of child (Matthew 18:2-6)
CONFIDENTIALITY (Continued)
Range of Religious Positions
on Confidentiality
Roman Catholic, Episcopal, & Eastern Orthodox -- Confessional churches
Excommunicated if information told in
confession is revealed
Many Protestant & Free Churches
"Maintain all confidences"
Jewish -- Not a confessional faith
Disclosure for safety of victim important
Evangelical Lutheran Church in America (ELCA) "No disclosure without permission,
or if the person is perceived to intend great harm to self and others"
Note: Other denominations are now establishing similar directives in their pastoral
conduct procedures.
Difference between secrecy and confidentiality
Secrecy -- Never disclose
Confidentiality -- A trust shared only with
permission or in the interest of person involved. (Note: New transparancy T-60 follows this transparancy.)
MYTHS (M) AND FACTS (F)
M Only in small percentage of population
F 28% of all marriages
90% go unreported
M Not as frequent in middle or upper class homes
F - Every race, religion, socio-economic background, and profession
- More "poor" battered women in shelters because of lack of resources
- Wealthier victims -- more to lose if they report
M Alcohol abuse causes violence
F 40 - 80% of the time alcohol is a factor
Alcohol does not cause abuse -- lowers inhibitions so that abuser's nature more easily expressed.
MYTHS (M) AND FACTS (F)
(Continued)
M Abusers are "Psychopathic", "Sick", "Evil"
F
M Victims are masochistic, provoke assaults, enjoy violence
F Male partners provoke violence 85% of time
Examples: Baby crying
Dinner not ready on time, etc.
Extent of violence - which escalates:
MYTHS (M) AND FACTS (F)
(Continued)
M Some women deserve beating to keep them in line
M Strong faith will prevent battering
F Depends on nature of "faith"
M Shelters break up families
F Hospitals don't cause accidents. Violence breaks up families
A CYCLE OF VIOLENCE
Phase I
Tension
Building
Phase II
Explosion
Incident
Phase III
Regret/Hearts & Flowers
BATTERED WOMEN STAY BECAUSE
QUESTION:
Is a violent dysfunctional family wherein children are terrorized and emotionally traumatized a scriptural family?
AN OVERVIEW OF CHILDREN
WHO WITNESS DOMESTIC VIOLENCE
Children often appear:
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE
Guidelines for Clergy
1. It occurs in most, if not all, congregations
2. Victims often try to conceal battery
3. Domestic violence is a crime -- cannot be tolerated
4. Requires specialized therapy
5. Ask the question -- usually not volunteered
6. Victims may open up with hints and indirection
7. Victims test to determine reaction
8. Listen to the victim -- affirm feeling
9. Challenge violence
10. Make certain that faith statements do not perpetuate the violence
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE
11. Assist in looking for empowering solutions
12. See victim's safety as a high priority
13. Offer options:
14. Let victim make the choices
15. Support victim's choices
16. Help victim discover resources:
Money - Friends - Relatives - Employment
17. Confront what is happening to children
18. Make it your goal to get victim in Domestic
Violence Program if possible
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE
19. Continue support through the process
20. Assure confidentiality
21. Do not suggest marriage or couples counseling!
22. Give the victim time
23. Be prepared for frustration
24. Give Scriptural faith assurances - and encourage victim to draw upon God's strength
25. Learn your community's resources:
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE CRISIS COUNSELING
CONGREGATIONAL ASSISTANCE
RAPE -- SEXUAL ASSAULT
Definition -- Forced penetration by the penis or any object into the vagina, mouth or anus
against the will of the victim.
Improvement over previous definition which defined rape as vaginal intercourse forced by
a male on a female.
The act involves sexual activity because of genital contact, but it is committed to primarily
fulfill non-sexual needs
Rape can be committed in marital and dating relationships
Most frequently committed violent act
RAPE MYTHS
1. Rape is a crime of passion
2. Women who are careful don't get raped
3. Rape is impossible if the woman really resists
4. Women secretly want to be raped
5. Rapist is usually a stranger
6. Women invite rape by seductive dress
7. If rape is imminent the woman should relax and enjoy it
8. Women "Cry Rape"
IMPACT OF RAPE
Physical, Emotional, Psychological
IMPACT OF RAPE
(continued)
STAGES OF ADJUSTMENT
Shock "I'm numb"
Denial "This can't have happened"
Anger "What did I do? Why me?"
Bargaining "Let's go on as if it didn't happen"
Depression "I feel so dirty and worthless"
Acceptance "Life can go on"
Assimilation "It's part of my life"
SEXUAL ASSAULT AND THE LAW
FACTORS HAVING A NEGATIVE IMPACT IN PREPARING FOR COURT
- To family and friends
- To victim
- Questions and style
- Advice and explanations
- Pressures to either strengthen story or reduce to lesser offense
ACQUAINTANCE (DATE) RAPE
In our culture, men are socialized to believe that women do not really mean what they say.
Many of both sexes feel that certain behavior ("leading the man on") allows men to force
sex.
Man may feel that the woman really wants it, but has to say "no" to be virtuous. If he
pushes her, they both will get what they want.
Peer pressure to have sex on a date. Encouragement to "score".
Woman may fear that the man finds her unattractive if he does not initiate sex.
Man may tell woman he won't go out with her again if she doesn't have sex.
UCLA Study of Male Teen Attitudes
When it is O.K. to force sex:
54% If she said yes at first then changed her mind
39% If he spent a lot of money on her
54% If she "led him on"
36% If he is so "turned on" he can't stop
CLERGY - CONGREGATIONAL RESPONSE -- RAPE
GENERAL CHARACTERISTICS OF ABUSED AND NEGLECTED ELDERLY PERSONS
Usually live in family environment with an adult child or other family member who abuses
them.
May live in a care home which is failing to comply with state standards.
Overwhelming majority of abuse victims suffer from one or more disabilities making them
vulnerable and service-demanding.
Often in some discomfort and in need of constant attention and in-depth care.
May need special diet, special hygiene care and demonstration of affection and caring.
May have history of family violence, alcoholism, drug abuse or other stress.
Inflation may be a threat to fixed income.
Caretaker may have limited income and use elderly person's income improperly for personal use.
INDICATORS OF ELDER ABUSE & NEGLECT
ELDER ABUSE INDICATORS
(Continued)
ELDER ABUSE
The role of pastors and congregations in prevention and protection
Reporting
Visitation
Escort and Transportation
Property Services
Financial Services
Support After the Abuse
Spiritual Counsel
DEFINITIONS
Robbery -- The unlawful taking or attempt to
take property that is in the immediate possession of another by force or threat of force.
Simple Assault -- Unlawful intentional inflict-
ing, or attempted inflicting, or injury upon the person of another without use of a
dangerous or deadly weapon.
Aggravated Assault -- Infliction or attempt to
inflict serious bodily injury by means of a dangerous deadly weapon.
Burglary -- Unlawful entry of any fixed struc-
ture, vehicle, or vessel used for regular residence, industry or business, with or without
force with the intent to commit larceny/theft.
Larceny-Theft -- Unlawful taking or attempted taking of property other than a motor vehicle (motor vehicle theft is a separate category) from another by stealth, without force and without deceit.
IMPACT OF BURGLARY ON VICTIM
Frustration because the crime is a low priority on police response.
Victim's strong desire to catch offender, does not seem to be as strong a desire on the part
of law enforcement.
Insurance difficulties
Police report
Bids for replacement
Conflict over value of items
Delays
Loss of items of limited monetary value but great emotional value (treasured pictures &
mementos -- irreplaceable).
Fear of repetition --
Loss of trust in others -- more suspicious
No legal resolution --
IMPACT OF AGGRAVATED ROBBERY ON VICTIMS
Loss of property
Injury
Shock -- Symptoms of post-traumatic stress
disorder
Ripple effects of the crime on family &
friends
Inconveniences caused by law enforce-
ment and court process
Sometimes lack of access to specialized
services
Spiritual challenges --
Lacks trust of others
What about forgiveness?
Children's relationship to peers & society
CLERGY AND CONGREGATIONAL RESPONSE
TO NEEDS OF VICTIMS OF
ROBBERY, ASSAULT AND BURGLARY
Do not under estimate trauma
Be aware of priceless nature of some apparently
inexpensive items -- mementos, etc.
Address the sense of disorder and violation
Theologically -- God does not always protect from
victimization, but is present in the pain to enable healing.
Help with insurance if the victim desires, but do
not take the attitude that insurance makes it right.
In extreme trauma (often caused by aggravated
offenses) refer to psychological counsel and/or support group.
Assist with victim compensation through local
victim/witness program
Use congregational resources to repair locks, put
in lighting, cover immediate expenses if loss of money, etc.
HOMICIDE (MURDER) - VEHICULAR HOMICIDE
Definition
Reckless or intentional taking of a human life by another
Comments
Nothing in life prepares one emotionally for this.
There is expectation of death at the end of a long life
Little or no expectation of death for youth or those in prime of life (except in cases of
terminal illness -- then there is preparation time).
This Kind of Death
VIOLENT ASSAULT
(Particularly Homicide)
Normal stages of grief (per Kubler Ross) do not necessarily apply
Shock and suddenness cause reactions more like PTSD (even certain survival chemical
changes)
Ministry needs to be to whatever emotion arises at the time, which may not necessarily be
in the normal stages of denial, anger, powerlessness, depression and acceptance
Horror about suffering of victim
Preoccupation with survivors' personal loss
Attacks of panic
VIOLENT ASSAULT
(Particularly Homicide)
(Continued)
Faith Doubts:
"Why did God allow this to happen?"
"I want revenge, but I know that is not right."
"Where is the victim now?"
GRIEF
TRAUMA PRE-EXISTING
SPECIFIC CONDITIONS
PTSD
SYMPTOMS
REACTIONS TO DEATH
Denial - Anger - Powerlessness - Depression -
Acceptance
REACTIONS TO VIOLENT DEATH
REACTIONS TO VIOLENT DEATH
(Continued)
STRESS FACTORS
(*From NOVA Training)
"It's God's will"
"Your loved one is better off -- in heaven"
"God called him/her"
"You need to forgive the murderer"
"Pray for his redemption"
"Get on with your life"
"Forget about the past"
"Concentrate on the ones you have left"
UNIQUE STRESSOR -- CRIMINAL JUSTICE SYSTEM
Survivors want justice and a return to order.
Become angry with anything less.
HOW TO BE OF COMFORT
Don't desert
Don't try to fix the pain
Listen with your heart
Accept all expressions of grief without censoring
Permit the bereaved opportunity to talk openly about the departed loved one
Remain available
Be sincere
FORGIVENESS
Timing is all important
Only when the victim will benefit
Only when the victim is ready
Affirm the victim. He or she may want to forgive, but can't
Assure that forgiveness is not forgetting
WHAT VICTIMS WANT TO SAY
TO CLERGY
Don't explain
Don't take away my reality
Stay close
Remember me . . . for a long time
Don't be frightened of my anger
Listen to my doubt
Be patient
Help me deal with forgiveness with integrity
WHEN PERMISSION TO REPORT
CANNOT BE OBTAINED FROM COUNSELEE