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IMPORTANCE OF THE ROLE OF

MILITARY CHAPLAINS AND OTHER CLERGY

IN SERVING VICTIMS OF CRIME



Americans' primary source of help for problems

1960's Study

42% Clergy

29% General Physicians

17% Psychiatrists

10% Other Mental Health Professionals

2% Other

25 years later (after Community Mental Health)

34% Clergy

28% Community Health Centers

Lesser percentages in each of all

other disciplines

Percentages do not necessarily apply to chaplains.

From all indicators, and depending upon the particular command, it is estimated that well over 50% of military personnel see chaplains as primary source of help.


DEFINITIONS

Physical Abuse

Physical abuse is that treatment of a child which results in injuries caused by hitting, pushing, whipping, biting, punching, slapping, or burning. Injuries include bruises, burns, welts, cuts and bone and skull fractures.



Sexual Abuse

Sexual abuse is any person, adult or child, forcing, tricking, threatening or coercing a child to have any kind of sexual contact with her or him. It may range from intercourse by rape or incest to touching inappropriately and exposure.


DEFINITIONS

(Continued)



Emotional Abuse

Emotional abuse is excessive verbal assault (belittling, screaming, threatening, blaming, using sarcasm), unpredictable responses (inconsistency), continual negative moods, constant family discord and double-message communication.



Physical Neglect

Physical neglect is failure to provide a child with adequate food, shelter, clothing, protection, supervision and medical and dental care.


CHILD NEGLECT


NEGLECTFUL PARENTS

Less

More

(Informal/formal)


INDICATORS OF POSSIBLE

CHILD NEGLECT

Child's Appearance


NEGLECT INDICATORS

(Continued)

Child's Behavior

Caretaker's Behavior


CHILD PHYSICAL ABUSE



Usually related to "discipline"

(trying to enforce behavior)

Generally inflicted when caretaker is out

of control

Often caused by failure to understand stages of child development

(expectations beyond child's capability)

More frequent when caretaker's primary method of training is physical coercion

More likely when control takes precedence over nurture


INDICATORS OF POSSIBLE

PHYSICAL CHILD ABUSE

Child's Appearance



Child's Behavior


PHYSICAL ABUSE INDICATORS

(Continued)

Caretaker's Behavior




CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE

Myths

1. Sexual abuse of children is rather rare

2. Most molesters are "dirty old men"

3. Most child sexual abuse is by strangers

4. Primarily in rural and lower socio-economic backgrounds

5. Not likely in religious families

6. Should not talk with child about it for fear of frightening

7. Most takes place in isolated, deserted areas

8. Adolescents should be held accountable for encountering sexual assault


INDICATORS OF POSSIBLE CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE

Child's Appearance


INDICATORS OF POSSIBLE

CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE

(Continued)



Child's Behavior


INDICATORS OF POSSIBLE

CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE

(Continued)



Caretaker's Behavior


RESPONSE TO DISCLOSURE

OF CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE



1. Listen to the child and take seriously what she/he says.

2. Stay calm.

3. Thank the child and reassure that it is not her/his fault.

4. Take immediate steps to protect the child.

5. Report the suspected abuse immediately.

6. Continue to give support as the child goes through the child protection system.

7. Have the child seen by a physician.


RESPONSE TO DISCLOSURE

OF CHILD SEXUAL ABUSE

(Continued)

8. Find a professional in the field or a colleague to talk to. This person should definitely commit to holding confidentiality.

9. Find out if the court is going to recommend treatment for the child. Make contact with the therapist and offer to cooperate.

10. Continue to offer the child the emotional support she/he needs.

11. Take steps to assure that the sexual abuse does not happen again.


CHILD EMOTIONAL ABUSE -

DEFINITION AND DYNAMICS

EMOTIONAL ABUSE

EMOTIONAL NEGLECT

PRESENT IN OTHER FORMS OF CHILD ABUSE AND NEGLECT

COMPONENTS


CONTINUUM OF PARENTAL BEHAVIOR



POSITIVE

PATENTAL

BEHAVIOR:

NEGATIVE

PARENTAL

BEHAVIOR:

EMOTIONAL

MALTREATMENT:

Praising

Attention

Affection

Good Example

Guidance

Yelling

Name Calling

Ignoring

Over Prohibition

Over Control

Consistent Negative Behaviors

Rejecting

Threatening

Bizarre Punishment

Using








INDICATORS OF POSSIBLE

EMOTIONAL MALTREATMENT

Child's Appearance

Child's Behavior

Caretaker's Behavior


MANDATE TO REPORT

All states now have a mandated Child Abuse Reporting Law

Military requires reporting to Family Advocacy

The list of Mandated Reporters generally includes:

Law Enforcement Personnel

Medical Practicioners

Day Care Operators

Teachers (Public and Private Schools)

Therapists and Counselors

School Administrators

Group Home Personnel

Social Workers

Photo Processing Stores & Labs

In some states clergy are also mandated.

In most, as well as in the military, exceptions are made because of privilege of confidentiality.

However, if clergy person also falls under one of the above categories, he/she is mandated.

There is, however, a moral obligation to report in order to protect the child.


PRIVILEGE OF CONFIDENTIALITY

VS

IMPERATIVE TO REPORT



The conflict: Protecting Children (intervention in abuse) vs. Maintaining Confidence

If indicators are observed (vs. Being revealed in pastoral consultation) no violation of confidence in reporting

Question: What to do when revealed in confidential pastoral counseling setting?

Conflict of Ethics:

Ethics of maintaining confidence vs. Ethic of reporting to protect the child

Scriptures place high emphasis upon the welfare of child (Matthew 18:2-6)


CONFIDENTIALITY (Continued)

Range of Religious Positions

on Confidentiality

Roman Catholic, Episcopal, & Eastern Orthodox -- Confessional churches

Excommunicated if information told in

confession is revealed

Many Protestant & Free Churches

"Maintain all confidences"

Jewish -- Not a confessional faith

Disclosure for safety of victim important

Evangelical Lutheran Church in America (ELCA) "No disclosure without permission,

or if the person is perceived to intend great harm to self and others"

Note: Other denominations are now establishing similar directives in their pastoral conduct procedures.

Difference between secrecy and confidentiality

Secrecy -- Never disclose

Confidentiality -- A trust shared only with

permission or in the interest of person involved. (Note: New transparancy T-60 follows this transparancy.)


MYTHS (M) AND FACTS (F)

ABOUT DOMESTIC VIOLENCE


M Only in small percentage of population

F 28% of all marriages

90% go unreported

M Not as frequent in middle or upper class homes

F - Every race, religion, socio-economic background, and profession

- More "poor" battered women in shelters because of lack of resources

- Wealthier victims -- more to lose if they report

M Alcohol abuse causes violence

F 40 - 80% of the time alcohol is a factor

Alcohol does not cause abuse -- lowers inhibitions so that abuser's nature more easily expressed.


MYTHS (M) AND FACTS (F)

ABOUT DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

(Continued)

M Abusers are "Psychopathic", "Sick", "Evil"

F

M Victims are masochistic, provoke assaults, enjoy violence

F Male partners provoke violence 85% of time

Examples: Baby crying

Dinner not ready on time, etc.

Extent of violence - which escalates:


MYTHS (M) AND FACTS (F)

(Continued)

M Some women deserve beating to keep them in line

M Strong faith will prevent battering

F Depends on nature of "faith"

M Shelters break up families

F Hospitals don't cause accidents. Violence breaks up families




A CYCLE OF VIOLENCE







Phase I

Tension

Building







Phase II

Explosion

Incident







Phase III

Regret/Hearts & Flowers




BATTERED WOMEN STAY BECAUSE

QUESTION:

Is a violent dysfunctional family wherein children are terrorized and emotionally traumatized a scriptural family?


AN OVERVIEW OF CHILDREN

WHO WITNESS DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

Children often appear:


DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

Guidelines for Clergy

1. It occurs in most, if not all, congregations

2. Victims often try to conceal battery

3. Domestic violence is a crime -- cannot be tolerated

4. Requires specialized therapy

5. Ask the question -- usually not volunteered

6. Victims may open up with hints and indirection

7. Victims test to determine reaction

8. Listen to the victim -- affirm feeling

9. Challenge violence

10. Make certain that faith statements do not perpetuate the violence


DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

Guidelines (continued)


11. Assist in looking for empowering solutions

12. See victim's safety as a high priority

13. Offer options:

14. Let victim make the choices

15. Support victim's choices

16. Help victim discover resources:

Money - Friends - Relatives - Employment

17. Confront what is happening to children

18. Make it your goal to get victim in Domestic

Violence Program if possible


DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

Guidelines (continued)


19. Continue support through the process

20. Assure confidentiality

21. Do not suggest marriage or couples counseling!

22. Give the victim time

23. Be prepared for frustration

24. Give Scriptural faith assurances - and encourage victim to draw upon God's strength

25. Learn your community's resources:


DOMESTIC VIOLENCE CRISIS COUNSELING


CONGREGATIONAL ASSISTANCE


RAPE -- SEXUAL ASSAULT

Definition -- Forced penetration by the penis or any object into the vagina, mouth or anus against the will of the victim.

Improvement over previous definition which defined rape as vaginal intercourse forced by a male on a female.

The act involves sexual activity because of genital contact, but it is committed to primarily fulfill non-sexual needs

Rape can be committed in marital and dating relationships

Most frequently committed violent act


RAPE MYTHS

1. Rape is a crime of passion

2. Women who are careful don't get raped

3. Rape is impossible if the woman really resists

4. Women secretly want to be raped

5. Rapist is usually a stranger

6. Women invite rape by seductive dress

7. If rape is imminent the woman should relax and enjoy it

8. Women "Cry Rape"


IMPACT OF RAPE

Physical, Emotional, Psychological




IMPACT OF RAPE

(continued)


STAGES OF ADJUSTMENT

TO

RAPE --SEXUAL ASSAULT



Shock "I'm numb"

Denial "This can't have happened"

Anger "What did I do? Why me?"

Bargaining "Let's go on as if it didn't happen"

Depression "I feel so dirty and worthless"

Acceptance "Life can go on"

Assimilation "It's part of my life"


SEXUAL ASSAULT AND THE LAW

FACTORS HAVING A NEGATIVE IMPACT IN PREPARING FOR COURT

- To family and friends

- To victim

- Questions and style

- Advice and explanations

- Pressures to either strengthen story or reduce to lesser offense


ACQUAINTANCE (DATE) RAPE

In our culture, men are socialized to believe that women do not really mean what they say.

Many of both sexes feel that certain behavior ("leading the man on") allows men to force sex.

Man may feel that the woman really wants it, but has to say "no" to be virtuous. If he pushes her, they both will get what they want.

Peer pressure to have sex on a date. Encouragement to "score".

Woman may fear that the man finds her unattractive if he does not initiate sex.

Man may tell woman he won't go out with her again if she doesn't have sex.


UCLA Study of Male Teen Attitudes

When it is O.K. to force sex:

54% If she said yes at first then changed her mind

39% If he spent a lot of money on her

54% If she "led him on"

36% If he is so "turned on" he can't stop


CLERGY - CONGREGATIONAL RESPONSE -- RAPE






GENERAL CHARACTERISTICS OF ABUSED AND NEGLECTED ELDERLY PERSONS

Usually live in family environment with an adult child or other family member who abuses them.

May live in a care home which is failing to comply with state standards.

Overwhelming majority of abuse victims suffer from one or more disabilities making them vulnerable and service-demanding.

Often in some discomfort and in need of constant attention and in-depth care.

May need special diet, special hygiene care and demonstration of affection and caring.

May have history of family violence, alcoholism, drug abuse or other stress.

Inflation may be a threat to fixed income.

Caretaker may have limited income and use elderly person's income improperly for personal use.


INDICATORS OF ELDER ABUSE & NEGLECT


ELDER ABUSE INDICATORS

(Continued)




ELDER ABUSE



The role of pastors and congregations in prevention and protection

Reporting

Visitation

Escort and Transportation

Property Services

Financial Services

Support After the Abuse

Spiritual Counsel


DEFINITIONS

Robbery -- The unlawful taking or attempt to

take property that is in the immediate possession of another by force or threat of force.

Simple Assault -- Unlawful intentional inflict-

ing, or attempted inflicting, or injury upon the person of another without use of a dangerous or deadly weapon.

Aggravated Assault -- Infliction or attempt to

inflict serious bodily injury by means of a dangerous deadly weapon.

Burglary -- Unlawful entry of any fixed struc-

ture, vehicle, or vessel used for regular residence, industry or business, with or without force with the intent to commit larceny/theft.

Larceny-Theft -- Unlawful taking or attempted taking of property other than a motor vehicle (motor vehicle theft is a separate category) from another by stealth, without force and without deceit.


IMPACT OF BURGLARY ON VICTIM

Frustration because the crime is a low priority on police response.

Victim's strong desire to catch offender, does not seem to be as strong a desire on the part of law enforcement.

Insurance difficulties

Police report

Bids for replacement

Conflict over value of items

Delays

Loss of items of limited monetary value but great emotional value (treasured pictures & mementos -- irreplaceable).

Fear of repetition --

Loss of trust in others -- more suspicious

No legal resolution --




IMPACT OF AGGRAVATED ROBBERY ON VICTIMS

Loss of property

Injury

Shock -- Symptoms of post-traumatic stress

disorder

Ripple effects of the crime on family &

friends

Inconveniences caused by law enforce-

ment and court process

Sometimes lack of access to specialized

services

Spiritual challenges --

Lacks trust of others

What about forgiveness?

Children's relationship to peers & society


CLERGY AND CONGREGATIONAL RESPONSE

TO NEEDS OF VICTIMS OF

ROBBERY, ASSAULT AND BURGLARY

Do not under estimate trauma

Be aware of priceless nature of some apparently

inexpensive items -- mementos, etc.

Address the sense of disorder and violation

Theologically -- God does not always protect from

victimization, but is present in the pain to enable healing.

Help with insurance if the victim desires, but do

not take the attitude that insurance makes it right.

In extreme trauma (often caused by aggravated

offenses) refer to psychological counsel and/or support group.

Assist with victim compensation through local

victim/witness program

Use congregational resources to repair locks, put

in lighting, cover immediate expenses if loss of money, etc.


HOMICIDE (MURDER) - VEHICULAR HOMICIDE

Definition

Reckless or intentional taking of a human life by another

Comments

Nothing in life prepares one emotionally for this.

There is expectation of death at the end of a long life

Little or no expectation of death for youth or those in prime of life (except in cases of terminal illness -- then there is preparation time).



This Kind of Death


VIOLENT ASSAULT

(Particularly Homicide)



Normal stages of grief (per Kubler Ross) do not necessarily apply

Shock and suddenness cause reactions more like PTSD (even certain survival chemical changes)

Ministry needs to be to whatever emotion arises at the time, which may not necessarily be in the normal stages of denial, anger, powerlessness, depression and acceptance

Horror about suffering of victim

Preoccupation with survivors' personal loss

Attacks of panic


VIOLENT ASSAULT

(Particularly Homicide)

(Continued)

Faith Doubts:

"Why did God allow this to happen?"

"I want revenge, but I know that is not right."

"Where is the victim now?"






GRIEF



TRAUMA PRE-EXISTING

SPECIFIC CONDITIONS




PTSD

SYMPTOMS


REACTIONS TO DEATH

Denial - Anger - Powerlessness - Depression -

Acceptance




REACTIONS TO VIOLENT DEATH




REACTIONS TO VIOLENT DEATH

(Continued)




STRESS FACTORS

(*From NOVA Training)

"It's God's will"

"Your loved one is better off -- in heaven"

"God called him/her"

"You need to forgive the murderer"

"Pray for his redemption"

"Get on with your life"

"Forget about the past"

"Concentrate on the ones you have left"


UNIQUE STRESSOR -- CRIMINAL JUSTICE SYSTEM

Survivors want justice and a return to order.

Become angry with anything less.




HOW TO BE OF COMFORT



Don't desert

Don't try to fix the pain

Listen with your heart

Accept all expressions of grief without censoring

Permit the bereaved opportunity to talk openly about the departed loved one

Remain available

Be sincere


FORGIVENESS



Timing is all important

Only when the victim will benefit

Only when the victim is ready

Affirm the victim. He or she may want to forgive, but can't

Assure that forgiveness is not forgetting


WHAT VICTIMS WANT TO SAY

TO CLERGY



Don't explain

Don't take away my reality

Stay close

Remember me . . . for a long time

Don't be frightened of my anger

Listen to my doubt

Be patient

Help me deal with forgiveness with integrity










WHEN PERMISSION TO REPORT

CANNOT BE OBTAINED FROM COUNSELEE

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